The Hiring and Firing of Robert Saleh: A Win and a Loss for Sports and Spirituality

At a presentation today, a colleague admitted he has always had a flair for the dramatic. I think the NFL is no different. Cowboys in Crisis! Is Nick Sirianni having a nervous breakdown?! The hirings and firings, tragic injuries, tough losses and big wins characterize the game for almost nine months of the year now. From the mandatory mini-camps that players like Aaron Rodgers miss due to travel to Egypt to the overtime that rocked the Chiefs and Niners world in February, American football at its highest level can't stay out of the spotlight. And— it doesn't want to. 

The latest example of dramedy is the firing of New York Jets head coach, Robert Saleh after a loss to the Minnesota Vikings in Week 5 of the season. The game, played at Tottenham Hotspur Stadium was to be his last in the green and white. Though I highly doubt Saleh was dismissed over Greenland and some have conjectured, there is no shortage of hearsay about when and how the axe came down. The stories continue to swirl: he was escorted out of the building. The owner got to him before he fired Nathaniel Hackett, the offensive coordinator (who has since been let go). Did Rodgers call the owner Woody Johnson first? It's none of our business, but  the fans sure want to know. Many think it is. At the end of the day, one truth remains: Saleh's firing is a loss for Sports and Spirituality. Here are four reasons why.

1. What is Spirituality
I will never forget the first time I laid eyes on Robert Saleh. As the defensive coordinator of the San Francisco 49ers, it was hard not to notice him. He is fit, fierce and totally locked in. More than once I was convinced he would get in the game if he could. He admitted that he owed his players the passion and intensity we saw on the sidelines. He knew that his posture and energy fired THEM up. Defense is a tough job and it's a critical one. They say it wins game. Here here.

I offer this image—this example— because I think it helps me (and my students) make sense of what Ron Rolheiser has written about spirituality. In The Holy Longing: The Search for Christian Spirituality, the Canadian priest writes     

(There) is a tragic misunderstanding. Spirituality is not something on the fringes, an option for those with a particular bent. None of us has a choice. Everyone has to have a spirituality and everyone docs have one, either a life-giving one or a destructiveness. No one has the luxury of choosing here We do not wake up in this world calm and Serena, having the luxury of choosing to act or act. We wake up crying, in fire with desire, with madness. What we do with that madness: is our spirituality

Hence, spirituality is not about serenely picking or rationally choosing certain spiritual activities like going to church, praying or meditating, reading spiritual books, or setting off on some explicit spiritual quest. It is far more basic than that. Long before we do anything explicitly religious at all, we have to do some thing about that burns within us. What we do with that fire, how we channel it, is our spirituality.

This approach and understanding of spirituality does much more than offer a justification for why my students have learned about Saleh in the past. This new approach helps them understand that what they love, where they channel their desires and demonstrate their passion, can be a spiritual endeavor. It can help them to know and grow in their own spirituality. It is lived, expressed, active and alive. No question, Robert Saleh is a spiritual person. 

2. How and Why Saleh got into coaching 
How anyone comes to coaching, let alone coaching at the highest level is always interesting. However, one could argue Saleh's story is as surprising as it is spiritual.

His older brother David worked in finance and was sent to New York in September 2001 for a one week training seminar. It happened to take place in World Trade Center 2. When the plane hit the tower, he immediately descended over 60 flights of stairs to safety, forgoing a voice on the intercom that told people to remain calm and stay seated. Robert admitted "I didn't know he was alive and safe until about 4:00 p.m. that day."

Robert, who had been working as a credit analyst for at Comerica Bank headquarters in downtown Detroit said that 9/11 served as a wake-up call for him and how he was living his life. He said, "I spent my days in a cubicle, crunching numbers." and the dream of his father was one he shared. 

Saleh's father, Sam, played at Eastern Michigan University. He said "My father had a try out with the (Chicago) Bears. He always regretted not coaching football. He lives, eats and breathes football." It goes without saying, the same is true for Robert. After September 11, he asked himself "Am I doing what I want to do?" This is a question we ought to be asking ourselves on a regular basis. His answer led Robert to make a major career change: he started coaching football at Fordson High School, his alma mater.

I think it takes tremendous courage to make a career change such as this one. Given his passion and the life lessons from his father, one could argue it would take more courage not to change. However, Robert let the events surrounding 9/11 serve as a catalyst for living with purpose and living out his passion. I love it.

3. That alma mater
In 2012, a colleague who teaches World Religion handed me a great gift: the DVD of Fordson—Faith, Fasting and Football. She thought it would compliment my Sports and Spirituality course quite well. I still thank her for this resource.

As written on IMDB

'Fordson' follows a high school football team from Dearborn, Michigan as it prepares for its big cross-town rivalry game during the last ten days of the Muslim holy month of Ramadan. The story is set at Fordson High School, a public school, which was once all white, but now boasts a 98% Arab-American population. As we follow the team on the road to victory, 'Fordson' unearths the story of a community desperately holding onto its Islamic faith while struggling to gain acceptance in post 9-11 America. 'Fordson' is an unprecedented glimpse inside the lives of a community that is home to the largest concentration of Arabs in any city outside of the Middle East, and their determination to hold on to the American Dream. 

Robert Saleh is not featured in the film because by the time it was made, he had been coaching for ten years; it was released in 2011. However, he is a renown alum and contributed to the success of the Tractors as both a player and a coach. 

I love the film because it brings great insight into both a religious and ethnic culture that I know far too little about. I appreciated getting better insight into how community and family support makes the demands of fasting during Ramadan possible. I loved hearing why they do it in the first place. I gained an understanding of some of the complexities the Arab community in Dearborn holds as it seeks to balance old world traditions against modern day values in a new country. Make no mistake about it, family is incredibly important...and so is football. This is from where Robert Saleh has come!

4. Coaches ¡Caliente! Calendar
Though it's hard to say this is spiritual, I'll give it a try. Robert Saleh is the reason I have the Coaches ¡Caliente! Caleder. Read my post Passion Project: Coaches' Calendar ~ Caliente on and perhaps you make a concession for the case.

I ran this calendar again for the 2024-2025 season and once again, Robert Saleh got the most votes for a Coach Caliente. Given that Week 1 in the NFL takes place in early September, the start of the new year is no different. Saleh was the leading man in the 2023-2024 edition and this year, I saved that handsome face for the end of the year. Perhaps he will be leading another team in August of 2025. The story of the NFL is always unfolding.

Conclusion
It is a joy and a privilege to teach my students about Robert Saleh. As the first Muslim head coach in the NFL , Saleh brings a different voice to the conversation around diversity. Furthermore, Saleh, who is of Lebanese descent speaks both Arabic and English at home with his wife and seven children. No doubt he speaks football too. 

Robert Saleh will find another coaching position in the NFL. However, I do wonder if he is best suited to be coordinating a defensive unit (ideally the Niners again?!!). After all, his motto is "all gas, no breaks." Seems fitting for the drama that is the NFL, replete with highs and lows, ups and downs—this one being a loss...for Sports and Spirituality...at least for now. God bless “الله يبارك فيك” (pronounced: Allah yubarik feek).

Photo Credits
Bob Saleh
Headset
Fordson prayer
Fordson Coaching Staff
Family
With Shanahan

What to Watch: Here Come the Irish

Although we have entered into 55 straight days of football, Notre Dame fans have a two week drought. With an bye for the October 5 weekend, I found myself with a free Saturday—a fall day full of opportunities and at minimum four hours—usually accounted for by the Irish. However, as true fans know, that freedom also creates a void. Looking to mind the gap, I found an answer in Here Come the Irish. It scratched the itch, offering new talking points and input on both sports and spirituality. 

"Here Come the Irish" is a seven-episode Peacock Original docuseries that follows the legendary Fighting Irish football team as they make their way through the 2024 college football season. In their marketing genius, only the first two episodes are available before the season. This means that a loyal Irish patron will keep the subscription throughout the season and after. And I will.

Episode One: Choose Hard begins with a wonderful example of the symbiosis of Sport and Spirituality. The season has yet to begin and so does this particular day. The silence that surrounds Notre Dame stadium is interrupted by the rhythm of Cicadas, hidden from sight, nestled in the trees on the Library Quad. 

The distinctive voice of Marcus Freeman speaks to something so spiritual. He says

I try to get my workouts in the morning. Sometimes I will run, sometimes I will walk—depending on what day it is, but I love it empty. I love being here and reflecting on the work that has to get done. You look for a place where you can get a bit of solitude. This is holy ground, man. What better place that being in the stadium at this time in the morning.

Few Fightin' Irish fans would disagree. It is holy ground. While we don't have that opportunity to get inside the stadium, alone, early in the morning to find the time and space to reflect, pray meditate AND exercise, I'm glad we have a coach that can and does.

My sense is this spiritual practice is what prompts Coach Free to give inspiring, important messages. Moreover it yields an authenticity that gets his players and fans to actually believe him. In his opening speech, he proclaims the goal for the preseason. He says, "our focus as a football team, as a football program—as players, coaches and staff— is to chase the best version of you. Don't worry about anything else. If we can get 100+ people in the Notre Dame football program to be the best version of themselves—then watch out! That's called reaching your full potential."

The program flashes iconic images and popular rhetoric—tradition, legendary players and coaches, values and principles, the personal and team goals. It captures who we are and who we want to be. Coach Holtz himself says, “for those who know Notre Dame, no explanation’s necessary. Those who don’t, no explanation will suffice.” That is the spirituality of Notre Dame football. 

In 2024, the program is led by a man who is telling his athletes to undertake an endeavor that is truly countercultural: Choose Hard. I would argue that true Christianity asks the same. 

Football and other sports might be one of the few arenas where we welcome the invitation and opportunity to take on challenges and face difficulty head on. Athletics demands that we do this to grow, succeed and win. We do it alone and with others, guided by leaders—many who are good and some who are not. And still, we carry on, endure and persevere. 

Coach Freeman isn't the only person who has ever said this. I should think in his own life and as a Catholic, he has listened to many voices. I hope on those early morning runs, inside Notre Dame Stadium—a beautiful one is that of Our Lady, Notre Dame. She speaks to us all...it's just that at a place like ND we have lots of reminders to listen to her...and her Son.

Photo Credits
Here come the Irish
Coach Free

Inside Bay Bridge Baseball: The Pen Remains Mighty

When was the last time you put a pen to paper and wrote a letter? And when is the last time you received a missive in the mail? in print? Although letter writing might feel like a practice of the past, two recent events in Bay Area sports have reminded how and why writing a letter is important. 

History reveals this truth. Go to any Presidential museum in this country and you will find countless letters on display. By one estimate, Teddy Roosevelt penned 150,000 letters. Furthermore, letters serve as primary sources. The book All the Best, George Bush: My Life in Letters and Other Writings taught me a great deal about American history, culture, art and more. Who knew that saving all those cards and handwritten notes could and would prove invaluable? Letters are passed down and passed on. They are both personal and private, sometimes public, often revelatory.

The first chapter of On the Eighth Day:A Catholic Theology of Sport —the required text for Sports and Spirituality—is entitled "From Saint Paul to Pope Francis." Saint Paul is important in this course because he "invokes the motif of running as a metaphor for discipleship on multiple occasions" through his letters to different communities. His wrote to inform, persuade and encourage others (of the love of Christ). These letters are recorded in the New Testament. Though they were written nearly 2,000 years ago, we write letters for similar reasons today. Such is the thought that came to mind when I saw that the Oakland Athletics' owner, John Fisher wrote a letter to A's baseball fans. I knew it was something I needed to share.

I posted Fisher's missive in my presentation but offered to read it to the class. I reminded my students that in the past athletes have written letters to their fan base when they retire or move on. Others, like Kobe Bryant have written letters to a game. Though you might not be an A's fan, I'm curious to know what you think.

Fisher notes the franchise's 123 year history. It has moved before and it is moving again. The list of accomplishments is so impressive. The characters who contributed and colored their story are legion. I got to the 1989 Loma Prieta earthquake, the Bay Bridge Series and the 20 game win streak and I got so choked up, I paused. I told my students, "I'm sorry, this is harder than I thought it would be." I finished reading the letter and let them unpack its meaning, their reactions and responses. Many sat in silence. Others noted how hard that might be for those fans. I told them I had no idea I would feel this way. 

Although I grew up in Walnut Creek, California—the East Bay—I am not an A's fan. People who have met me away from my home want to know how or why I am Giants fan instead. Easy. The Giants had a Triple-A farm team in Tacoma, WA, so my dad saw the genesis of some Giant legends. My mom grew up in San Francisco, which is where I have lived for the past 20+ years. No further explanation needed. 

That being said, I grew up with and among A's fans. Several of my dear friends from high school donned the green and gold. I can still recall getting into an argument during my freshman year over who was the better franchise: the Giants or the A's. We were sitting in the back of the bus. One girl couldn't let it go. She defended the orange and black. I respect her to this day for that.

It was so moving to see many of those friends return to the ballpark for the final games. A's fans are both angry and sad. I don't think it would be too much for John Fisher to acknowledge this. Instead he wrote what a local announcer, Larry Beil deemed a "great work of fiction." His pronouncement went viral.Watch and you will see why.

One announcer said "that statement does nothing for any A's fan." Beil responds, "you sort of have to release a statement but what would be nice would be a news conference where you take questions, but we haven't seen that. Why start now? It's only been 18 years." A good friend Dan, added

I believe that no fan needed or wanted to hear from Fisher. It’s amazing that the hearts of an entire fanbase and city are in the hands of one human being. And it’s unfathomable that he could not make it work in one of the country’s largest media markets.  Its all so disappointing.  I enjoyed my farewell on Saturday vs the mighty Yanks.  You could feel the love in the building and the respect for what that franchise accomplished in Oakland.  The titles, the characters and legends, the grit, inspiring a major motion picture, the fan support throughout…I feel fortunate to have grown up with A’s and grateful to my family for getting to so many games.

Dan's words remind me—for the fans, baseball is so much more than a business. It's just not entertainment. I knew what this loss would mean to him and his family. A team binds friends and family, our community and makes a place home. It affects our lives and livelihoods in ways big and small. My brother was a paper boy for the Contra Costa Times—a news source that proudly featured the A's.  He threw out the first pitch of an A's-White Sox game on Saturday, June 16, 1984, a nationally televised game on NBC. He said, "I was among a group of seven or eight paper boys who sold the most subscriptions and was picked to throw out the first pitch after winning a contest." Great job, Mark! In sixth grade, I got free tickets to an A's game because I read ten books in the summer. Incentives do work! I wrote a letter to my Great Aunt, my Aunt Dottie. In our regular USPS exchanges, I told her about that prize!

Personally, I think it's important that Fisher wrote this open letter. Yes, his director of communications likely wrote it. Yes, it feels more fiction than fact but the written word gives all of us a place to stand. It is from this message we can respond and react, retort and reply. It could have been different. It should have been different. Silence in this instance would be deafening and damaging....and furthered the defeat so many people already feel. A meeting, a question and answer session, a press conference with the fans and for the fans isn't too much to ask. They deserve so much more. They got an open letter and lost a team. This story is a sad one.

No one is sure of what is to come for sports in and around Oakland the larger Bay Area. I can however report this week, my students were privy to letter with a different tenor. Speaking about the San Francisco Giants ten years ago felt a whole lot different. Loyal fans like me are hopeful that the words from our All-Star and three time World Series champion, Gerald "Buster" Posey will deliver the promise he offers. 

The fact of the matter is feelings, hopes and desires, dreams and dreams deferred need to be written and shared. A letter is an important place to make a record of that. The pen is mighty... Shakespeare said so himself.

Photo Credits
Buster Posey—is he getting better looking or what
A's in Line
Double Trouble

The Juice Box: Featuring Fred Warner

A colleague recently told me about a new podcast. I like it so much I almost feel like I have a new friend. I want the people I care about to "meet" my new show. So for you, Sports and Spirituality readers, I'm excited to make the introduction. Meet Pod Quad. 

Hosted by two Holy Cross priests, Fathers Pete McCormick, C.S.C. and Nate Wills, C.S.C. are real friends "having curiosity conversations with interesting people. Talking about life.” The title is a nod to where that happens at a place like Notre Dame: on the Quad. I want the creators and any new listeners to know, although I am over 2000 miles from campus and live amidst the urban sprawl of San Francisco, their message resonates with me. In other words, the quad is not required. Furthermore, I'm so invested in their show, I have  found myself answering the final question for myself. I would like the hosts to know I get a whole lot of juice from Sports and Spirituality.. And juice this week has come from the Niners win over the New England Patriots on Sunday, September 29. I'll give the squeeze in a bit. 

The format works. Although Pod Quad is but a few episodes in, it is a delight to listen to and learn from their guests. They conclude each interview with the question “What's one piece of wisdom that you've received that you think would be awesome just to share with Pod Quad Nation?” While those nuggets are always meaningful, what leaves me hanging is their final question. 

Father Nate says,

And so now this segment, we close out the Pod Quad here with a little segment we like to call the Juice Box, which is where we talk about what gave us juice from that conversation.

Pete, how would you define juice?

Man, juice is, you can look this up in the dictionary. Juice ultimately is a vigor for life, a passion, a new insight, perspective that just gets amped up. And so what we're doing is honoring that in this way with some very tasty apple juice.

But at the same time, to be able to remind us all, like, yo, what are the things in your conversations, in your lives that are ultimately bringing you juice and how can you bring that into your world more broadly?”

I've never been partial to juice.I don't start my day with an OJ in hand. I don't own a juicer. A day without coffee is criminal, but a day without juice? No problem...and yet, I love this metaphor. This question gets me fired up—What gives you juice? 

Juice has flavor—lots of it! Juice makes things sweeter. The Juice Box has given me a way to understand and appreciate events, ideas, insights and sharing that fits their description.

Sitting in the Boston airport, I relished watching the Niners in enemy territory. In what appeared to be a beautiful day at Levi's Stadium, I couldn't help but cheer when I saw that once again Niners linebacker Fred Warner was the main squeeze. He was outstanding in Game two against the Vikings (some fans said he was the only Niner who played well that day) and his pick-six in the second quarter of this game made me wonder: Do I need to get a jersey with #54 on it?! But what made this play so memorable was not only his feat, but the reaction from the fans. Kendall Baker of Yahoo Sports, featured Warner's interception for a TD in his Baker's Dozen as one of the "Top Plays of the Weekend." Watch his clip here.

I love his defensive genius. I love Warner's vision, speed and his heart. But I also love what the camera reveals: the viewer gets confirmation of the TD and then a panorama of the response from fans in the stands. In this sea of gold are two men in their turbans next to others in a baseball caps. Women, men and even children are standing and clapping. Football is flawed, but it's also one of the greatest games. It's emotional, it's heart, it's thrilling.  There's just so much juice to squeeze. Even thinking about it now gets the juices flowing.

So give to others what Father Pete and Father Nick have given us—a place and a space for a curiosity conversation. Talk to someone you admire or respect. Ask them for their best piece of advice. Reflect upon what you have learn. You might walk away with a juice box in hand. 

Photo Credits
Fist bump
Pod Quad convo
Icon
Pick-Six

Fore! The Wisdom of Forewarned is Forearmed

Like Gretchen Rubin—co-host of the podcast Happier— I too love "proverbs, aphorisms, Zen koans, paradoxes, fables." She says,"I love reading any single line where a big idea is succinctly expressed, or any kind of teaching story." Such pithy prose serves as helpful hints for remembering the truth. We shouldn't need the reminder, but we do. Good, bad or otherwise, I found that in a proverb I quote on a regular basis. It speaks to what each of us should consider in both sports and in spirituality: Forewarned is forearmed.

Golfers are expected to yell Fore! upon hitting a ball that could potentially hit another person. It need not be wide right or sliced super hard to be in the path of an unsuspecting party. Yelling fore! is a warning for other people to watch out.

Upon hearing this four letter word, a person should duck, cover their head and turn away from the direction from whence the sound hath come.To be safe, be sure to wait until you have a sense of where the ball lands before standing up, walking away or moving on. Failure to do increases the risk of injury. Unfortunately, I now have first hand knowledge of how and why this is important.

On Saturday afternoon, I was playing with a friend and an errant shot off the tee hit me on my right thigh. From the tee box, the golfer yelled fore. I ducked and waited but got back up. I hadn't realized that much time would pass between impact from the driver to where it landed— about 200 yards from where it was hit. I never heard the ball hit the ground and that is for the simple fact it hadn't....until it hit me. And I went down. I now have a deep red mark where it landed on my leg and purple bruising all around it. My friend Haley, a D1 field hockey goalie is no stranger to bruises. She told me to name my bruise. I'm not there yet. Instead, I can only speak to what I have said and long believed; Forewarned is forearmed.

Advance warning provides an advantage. If you don't believe me, perhaps history can offer some insight. Even the Roman embraced this maxim. The Latin saying ‘praemonitus, praemunitus’ loosely translates as ‘forewarned is forearmed’. 

I was told what was coming my way. I would say about 50% of the time, I duck, cover and hold (in the other direction). At other times, I simply cover. In this case I just ducked. It certainly could have been worse. I am so lucky I didn't get hit in the head. But given what I know now, I will need the warning and and take hold. And, I can't help but appreciate the irony in the fact that this proverb begins with the very four letters of the word that serve as advance warning and defense. 

This event has served as an invitation to consider how this message might apply to our spiritual lives as well. 

Over time, we acquire self knowledge and ideally a deeper understanding of who we are and who we want to be. Through life experiences, reflection, relationships and reconciliation we realize our shortcomings, limitations and liabilities. We know who and what pushes our buttons. We appreciate what helps us stay morally strong and aware of what might set us astray.

In the Our Father, we pray "Lead us not into temptation." Well, a little forewarning may be help us succeed. If you know you are entering into a situation where you may give in to temptation, stay away. If you sense that something might not be good for you, turn around. Knowledge is power; use it to act—not react. 

I love Huey Lewis and the News' 4th album.
I do wonder if they had been hit by a golf ball, would they have used this title....

The Hebrew word for sin, ḥet, literally means "missing the mark" or "going astray". This is similar to an arrow missing its target. Sounds like a reason someone might yell fore!  Furthermore, sin hurts other people. While we might not see the bruise, sinful actions cause pain and can fracture a relationship. So what can we do? What should we do?

The man who hit the golf ball at me came over to apologize. I didn't even want to look him in the eye. He was sorry. He felt badly about the incident. He asked me if I was okay. While I wish he had said fore again, when the ball got closer (and given me $100 bill...kidding...sort of ), he saw that I was still able to walk and that I wanted my space. He respected that. 

Forewarned is forearmed is a tool for your spiritual toolbox and works in sports, too. While we can never predict the outcome of any given interaction, contest or game, we can use what we know and have learned to keep ourselves and one another as whole and healthy as possible.

Photo Credits
Huey Lewis
Adage
Tiger