Read + Pray + Bowl: Thank you Notre Dame Football

It is the most wonderful time of the year! As a teacher, I have over two weeks off and all of but a few final exams left to grade. Whether it's at the gym, in the dental chair or for from my friends—people always want to know what I will do with "all that time off." Given some health issues that my mom is facing, I am grateful that I can be of help to her and my Dad and enjoy Christmas together. But, that topic is tough and during this festive time of year, "we need a little Christmas." Once again, thanks to the University of Notre Dame football team, I have my answer. Move over Elizabeth Gilbert, it's time to read, pray, bowl. 

Read
In total sincerity, I have seven different books I want to read before I begin two new sections of Sports and Spirituality. I am not the master of reading more than one book at a time, but the shorter days and longer nights of this winter recess allows me this luxury.

Among the "magnificent seven" is one Sci-Fi novel (Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card), one American Studies classic Travels with Charley, by John Steinbeck), one autobiography (Truly, by Lionel Richie) three theology reads (Why Religion Went Obsolete by Christian Smith, The Miracle Collectors by Katie Mahon and Pray Like a Champion Today by Nate Wills, C.S.C.), and one comic book (Jeremonster by Jeremyiah Love). Actually it's more than a superhero comic book or graphic novel. As written in the ESPN article,

Jeremonstar is a sports-anime comic universe where legendary powers meet the grit of the gridiron.

Created by Notre Dame running back Jeremiyah Love, this story blends intense football action with supernatural abilities and fierce competition.

 ⚡ It’s a world of speed, skill, and heart — built for fans who love sports and anime alike.

I discovered Love's work thanks to social media. A once in a generation type of player, it was hard not to watch Love run the ball, break the tackle, hurdle over the D-line and bring his two hands into that iconic heart. Love me some Love.

For those of you looking to play by the "Four Gift Challenge," this is a fun and unique way to give "something to read." It's not just a story...

But this wasn't simply a superhero story. It was Jeremiyah's story. It had to be perfect, and that's where the Loves kept running into problems. They'd hire an artist, a writer or an agency, and after a few months of work, they'd realize the whole output was perfunctory. Most artists they talked to saw dollar signs because of Love's football prowess, but Love needed the story to be personal.

In December 2024, they met Chris Walker, and finally, they felt a connection.

"Chris was Yoda for us," Jason said.

Walker had spent a decade working with Marvel and DC Comics, had worked as a creative director at an agency and had even helped design the cover for a graphic novel by rapper Ghostface Killah. He now runs his own creative agency, Limited Edition, and he had recently found some success partnering with the Chicago Bulls and MLB Network on sports-related properties. He was hoping to grow that market when he reached out to Notre Dame's NIL collective, which connected him with the Loves.

Jeremiyah is like a lot of comic-book heroes. By day, he shows one side of himself. Then he dons a uniform and becomes something else.

Sure, Irish fans love that "something else," but this book offers an invitation to further understand and appreciate who he really is. At the Heisman Award finalist ceremony, Jeremiyah's mother said "thank you, for being Jeremiyah Love." What a great story to love.

Pray
I have always been a person of prayer. I believe in the power of prayer and though my prayer life is far from perfect, in the last few weeks, I have had to lean into God's love and as my friend Owen said, "give the rest to God's extremely capable hands."

Every Advent, the ND Alumni Association shares a Sacred Story with alumni and friends. Listening to and refelcting upon these testimonies is one of my favorite ways to pray. When I saw that Irish cornerback, Christian Gray had a Sacred Story to offer, I wasn't surprised. 

I have watched #6 take an extended moment in personal prayer in the end zone before each game. He was profiled in Season 1 of "Here Come the Irish" for the vision board that he creates at the start if each new year. He said "This is something my mom and I make every year. This is all the vision that God has given me. I put it as my mission to live out this entire vision." 

Through Christian's testimony, I am reminded that when we pray, when we ask others to pray for us, when we remain unrelenting in our prayer and make the time and space for it—we are carried and we sheltered by God's abiding love. He said, “Faith brought me here. My mother’s prayers, along with my grandmother’s and my sister’s prayers, are still guiding me every day through the ups and the downs, every win and every loss."

None of us can do it alone, nor should we. Prayer reminds us that we can always do something for others. The gift of faith celebrates that prayer is an important reminder: we can always do something for others and ourselves.

And my message for Christian: your faith and your joy is both inspiring and infectious. Thank you for your pick-six against USC in 2024.

Bowl
I've known a number of couples who have taken a break in their relationship. Some reconnect, others don't. A little time, space and distance can be a good thing. 

Those of us who golf and identify as a golfer, understand that this game isn't all that much different than a relationship. And although I have the time to play golf during my vacation, I am taking a break from it. I just feel a little too much pressure to play well. I am always seeking signs of improvement. I self diagnose and when I can't figure out my problems, I get even more frustrated. From time to time, I enter into a "dark place" on the golf course. It's important that I name it, because I know how quickly it devolves. The inner -monologue moves from hard to harsh is less than 60.

Instead, I have an alternative activity that I love: bowling. It's an excellent winter sport—a multigenerational one that I have played for years. I've loved taking my nieces to the now closed Danville Bowl every time they visit during the holidays. It's a good way to have fun and focus on the task at hand. And, I was thrilled to see that Team 139 did too.

As written in Yahoo Sports,

The Notre Dame football team is going bowling after all — but not the kind fans expected. Following a season that ended just outside the College Football Playoff field, the Fighting Irish found a unique and creative way to close out the year, hosting a lighthearted but meaningful charity bowling event designed to bring together players, coaches, and fans. Rather than competing for trophies or television ratings, the program decided to focus on teamwork, goodwill, and giving back to the South Bend community that supports them year-round. The event reflects the program’s broader mission to inspire both on and off the field, even in the face of postseason disappointment.

I have NO doubt that some of those guys are outstanding bowlers. I would love to see Coach Free getting strikes and picking up spares. I wonder if any of his six kids played.. And, I imagine there was some friendly competition—O-line vs. D-line? Positions coaches vs coordinators? 

In Conclusion
Both the Notre Dame football team and I have different plans than what we had hoped for this holiday season but we have many, many blessings. The ability to learn, to connect with God and others in prayer and have fun in something like bowling, remind me that this Christmas, the best gifts are shared with and among each other.

And please keep my mom, Sheila in your prayers. I am praying for her healing and strength. During this Advent, I find it so important to find hope, even in the darkest hours. He awaits.

Photo credits
Irish Give Back
Jeremonster
Love Book Signing

One Win Short: My Thoughts on Notre Dame Football and the 2025 Postseason

In the first episode of Season 2 of "Here Come the Irish," Nicole Auerbach— a prominent college sports journalist, football and basketball insider— said, "One of the most interesting story lines from last year is that Notre Dame was likable program. No matter where you live in the country you're aware of them. You've watched them and have probably rooted against them. They became so likable because of Marcus Freeman— he's cool, he's young, and that resonated with a lot of people." Irish fans know exactly what she is talking about.

Being a Notre Dame football fan isn’t easy, though Marcus Freeman has made it easier. It's like Irish fans are required to take a Masterclass in emotional endurance. For example, I began this season convinced it was “our year”; two weeks later, I was licking wounds and clawing my way out of a very dark place. We are fiercely proud of the program—and relentlessly critiqued for it.

Since Sunday, the number of unsolicited opinions that have come my way—about the CFB selection committee’s decision to exclude Notre Dame from the playoffs and the team’s decision not to play in a bowl game—has been staggering. Sports fans are anything but neutral on this topic. 

Being an ND fan is both a blessing and a burden; I think New York Yankees fans might stand in solidarity with me. We balance decades of history and tradition, long-lived loyalty and long-standing disdain. We aren’t called the Fightin’ Irish for nothing.

It’s not easy to take the high road, and many ND fans don’t. But for those who do—like Head Coach Marcus Freeman (HCMF)—I'd like to offer a few responses to the questions most people aren’t asking me. I wish they would; I think they’d be surprised by my answers. Here we go.

"The Spirit of Notre Dame" that first episode of Season 2—begins with the end in mind—or rather, the end of the 2024 football season on the screen. As the scene fades from Atlanta’s Mercedes-Benz Stadium, the audience hears: “The Ohio State Buckeyes have won the national championship, and Notre Dame’s season comes up one win short.” Though that moment took place on January 20, 2025, the message proved true once again.

All week, people have debated and dissected the selection committee’s decision. Regardless of how someone feels about Alabama or Miami, James Madison University or Tulane, the reality is that ND came up one game short—again. We needed to win one of the two games we lost during the regular season. Yes, we lost by a combined total of four points, and yes, we won out the rest of the season, but the truth remains: we lost two games and that makes us one win short.

As I was setting up shop in my classroom, one of my students told me—unprompted—that Notre Dame's decision not to play in a bowl game was childish and selfish. I have seen and read similar sentiments all over social media. Yes he knows I am a big fan and yes, he knows that comment will affect his grade (kidding). 

I remained calm. I listened to his thoughts and asked clarification questions to gain a better understanding. I paused and then I launched my retort.

I told him that I am proud what was the teams's decision. According to inside sources, Team 139's six captains met and then spoke with HCMF. I think this is an important component to the story. This decision came from within—not on high. @NDFootball posted what you see above.  I think this was a prudent decision for several reasons.

For one, the 2025 team would not have played in a bowl game; that team played their last game at Stanford Stadium on November 29, 2025. Players who plan to go into the draft to play professionally would sit out for fear of injury. (I can still see Jaylon Smith's go down as he suffered a severe left knee injury, tearing his ACL and MCL and damaging the peroneal nerve, dramatically compromising his selection in the draft). Had the Irish been in contention for a national championship, all of Team 139 would compete. The reality of today's game however means that potential draft players won't. This is not unique to Notre Dame. 

Some say not allowing seniors to play one more game is a significant reason this decision is so misguided. I disagree. The team honored 32 seniors on Saturday, November 22, 2025 on the field, inside of Notre Dame Stadium before the Syracuse game. To me, this is the ideal way to send off a senior—not at a bowl game. Many of those seniors will however play elsewhere next year as graduate students. 

I have been told that Notre Dame is paying the price for not joining a conference. Clearly we play by our own rules. And to me, those rules allow a team to say "no" to a postseason bid. I have long believed that sometimes a "no" is a "yes." Here's how.

Although some will contest this, the players on the Irish squad are still classified as student athletes. This means they have exams in the coming week. Before and during final exams, yes, the team will continue to workout, lift and train but they are not studying game film, practicing plays or learning new ones. I think that opens up some time and space—mental space. They get an actual break from the preparation required of in-season training. Furthermore, not playing in a bowl game means that the players and their coaches s have a real break during the holiday season. They will be able to spend Christmas at home and with their families. I think there is real value in opening up that space for all involved in the program.

Good, bad or otherwise, the Bowl system is in no way what it once was. While I have heard positive reviews of the Pop Tarts bowl, what we once knew is long gone. As a fan, I don't enjoy games that are nearly five hours long due to extended TV timeouts. The ticket prices are not favorable and I'm just not interested in seeing a hybrid crew from the 2025 team playing an opponent that is also be remiss of many of their players, let alone coaches. 

In conclusion,  "Notre Dame's season came up one game short." Immediately following these words, the screen flashes to Marcus Freeman. Holding back tears he said, "It's tough now. There's not a lot of words to say when you lose a national championship. But what you all have done for this university is something special. We love you and we're gonna continue to fight."

I think much of that message applies to how the 2025 ended for Team 139. There aren't a lot of words. I am grateful for all they have done for Notre Dame. Running the table and winning out the last 10 games, all by 15 points or more was special. Coach Freeman—we, your fans, love you. Thank you for helping these young men and others to embody the Spirit of Notre Dame. And for what it's worth, I think we're still likable. Go Irish.

Photos
Bowl Games
ND Letter
HCMF

From Notre Dame Stadium to the Pew: The Power of Presence

This is not a blog post I’ve been eager to write. I try to use this space to share messages that are hopeful, uplifting, and meaningful. Sure, I have my gripes—but I usually keep those close to the vest... or the water cooler.

But there’s a question I feel compelled to raise, and I think you have an answer: Have you ever been to a game where a singular fan, compromised your entire experience? Have a group of fans ever detracted from your enjoyment of the game? Have you ever been subjected to rude, boorish, or selfish behavior by someone cheering for the same team as you—a fellow fan?

Sadly, I fear that too many of us can answer "yes." The purpose of this post however isn't to castigate fans in 2025. I don't want to play the "it never used to be this way" game—although that might be true. No, I hope that you will read and consider the power that you as a fan have and will use it for good.

My friend Steve gave me an early Christmas present: a pre-game field pass for the Notre Dame game at Stanford Stadium on Saturday, November 29. To stand behind just feet from the entire team—ranked 9th in the nation—and on their level is amazing. Although you might not have the vantage of those who are perched from above, the energy and excitement is palpable—it's electric. Just before kick-off, I walked approximately 20 rows up to my seat and joined my friend Charlie. He noted that our section had been standing since he arrived. A few minutes into the game, the crowd around us took their seats and cheered loudly. We stood up, we sat down. We exchanged high fives. The blue, gold and green drowned out the Cardinal red. Clearly, this is was not enemy territory. 

I stood next to DeShone Kizer on the field and didn't recognize him until it was too late.
I would have loved talking to him about "A Season with ND Football."

The young man sitting in front of us was an enthusiastic fan. He stood every single time the Irish had possession of the ball or when defense made a great play. However, the problem with this gesture is that in order to see the game, we had to stand as well. If we stood, those behind us would need to do the same. Think of this as a different type of wave, and an unnecessary one. 

Charlie politely tapped him on the shoulder and said "excuse me, but when you stand, we can't see. Do you mind sitting down?" This fan retorted, "I do. I'm not going to sit. I'm going to stand when I want to." I listened in disbelief. I thought to myself, "maybe he didn't understand what we were asking." I tapped him on the shoulder and said "I'm sorry, it's just that your view is unobstructed (there was no one sitting in front of him from an angled sight line). When others stand or if someone else is standing—go for it. But you're the only person who stands and that means we can't see the play. We're happy to switch seats with you if that helps."

I was calm and hoped our simple request made sense. He shook his head and said, "I'm not moving seats. And I'm not going to stay seated. I'm going to stand when I want. That's what I'm going to do."

I have never heard another fan speak with such defiance. I would have said, "I am so sorry. Of course. No problem." While that might be too accommodating, I know I would have listened and at the very least found some middle ground.

Charlie shook his head. He told me to let it go as we turned our head to watch the plays on the Jumbotron. 

I tapped this man on the shoulder once more. I don't know from where this came but I said "Please don't cheer for Notre Dame." He looked at me quizzically. I asked "Are you an alum? Are you a current student?" He shook his head, "no." I said "Well, I'm an alum and I would rather that you not cheer for the Irish. What you are doing does not resonate with the values of the University. Don't cheer for the Irish. Please don't." I sat down.

In the words of Thomas Magnum "I know what you're thinking" and you're right. This story doesn't end well. He dug his heels in. He became almost more defiant by standing more and sitting less. 

This fan soured my experience; I would be lying if I said I could shake it off.  I wish he wasn't cheering for ND. The whole thing was disappointing and disrespectful.Very unfortunate.

Marcus Freeman's first game as Head Coach, January 2022

It could have been different. I say that because I know it’s true—I’ve lived it. On September 18, my friend Bill and I joined my aunt, uncle, cousin, her husband, and their four kids for the Purdue game at Notre Dame Stadium. Sitting together in two rows, we made quite an impression on the people around us.

With under two minutes left in the second quarter, play stopped because of lightning. Rain followed. We waited under the overhang for nearly two hours, then returned to our seats for the second half. While a third of the crowd didn’t come back, I noticed those around me were actually talking about my family. A couple of men picked up on the fact that my Uncle Jay has an uncommon knowledge of the game. They noticed how he explained a few of the rulings on the field in great detail. One of them inquired about it only to learn that my Uncle Jay was a Pac 10/12 referee for 35 years. Whether in the classroom or on the field, my Uncle Jay has always been someone who instructs, informs, and helps others. That’s who he was as a teacher and principal, and who he was wearing the white hat.

I love watching games with my Uncle Jay. Yes, I'm an info hound—I do love to gain clarity and comprehension—but he is incredibly spirited, too. He is locked in when the clock is ticking and helping others when it stops. I grew up watching him on the field work games. In his retirement, I have only benefitted from his presence in the stands. I am proud to say that others have too.

But Jay wasn't the only force for good in this crowd. My Uncle Jay's daughter Jodi—my cousin and her husband CW have four children. These fifth through eighth graders, have been raised to cheer for the Irish. To their credit, they did so until the final whistle. They understood the play calls, cheered at all the right times, and were held up for push-ups after a touchdown. It was a long day, but their enthusiasm, attention, and youthful energy were fun to share. They made a great game even better. Young fans have power, too.

The question I raise for fans is one about presence. Whether we are at a sporting event, a movie, a concert or show we have the ability to make a positive presence on the places and spaces we inhabit—including sacred ones. Are you aware of this?

I attend 8:00 a.m. every Sunday at St. Vincent de Paul parish. Because of its early start time, most of the congregation is comprised of elderly people and families with very young children (they get up early as it is!). Of course all are welcome, and I know the spirit of hospitality is important—but it is not with a sense of "do whatever you want" or "everything is okay."

I believe that because of an experience I had recently. A mother and her teenage daughter sat next to me and talked at a low whisper throughout both readings and the Gospel. The only time they refrained from chatting was when they sang. 

I glanced over a few times—giving that teacher look I’ve mastered over 25 years. They noticed but kept at it. During the homily, I held my gaze a little longer. Still nothing. In hindsight, I should have removed myself rather than hope something would change.

ND Football Chaplain, Father Nate Wills, C.S.C. offers a prayerful presence on the sidelines. 

When their conversation continued through the consecration, I couldn’t stay silent. I leaned over and said, “Do you mind not talking? I’m trying to focus and pray.”

My request was met with utter disgust. Both mother and daughter looked at me as though I were committing an unthinkable offense, a stranger daring to disturb their world. 

I stood frozen in fear that I would be the reason this young woman would stop going to church in the future. Perhaps she would say "this woman in church asked me to stop talking. How rude." I was that woman. I am that woman. And sadly, I shouldn't be the one apologizing.

I offer this message in contrast to what a woman once said to my brother as they were leaving Mass. She tapped him on the shoulder and said "I just want to say thank you for helping me pray better." Mark said "thank you" and paused. She added "Your prayerful presence really helped me to be still and hear the Word." 

I love that she thought to say this to my brother. She named for him the giftedness and grace of a positive presence. No words or money required. Truly we have the power for good.

I won't tell you what I said to the girlfriend of the guy who continued to stand during the game, but I can assure you that in the future, I will be thanking fans who make the experience even better.

Photo Credits
Kizer and Freeman

Stay Different Irish

In his new book, Shot Ready, Steph Curry opens up about an important self realization. "I'm different," he says. In fact, Curry sees his difference as a “superpower.” As he shares this understanding, it’s clear that being different is not pejorative. It it not something one ought to be ashamed of or seek to change. 

He said, "I was always different in the way I looked and played on the court and so embracing that differences as a superpower as opposed to a boundary or a speed bump I need to get over. That is really how I see the game—knowing that I have a flair and a creativity—embracing it, working on it."

Steph Curry IS different and fans love him for that. The game itself isn't the same because the ways he has exhibited and implemented that flair and creativity. The way he addresses, owns and celebrates his difference got me thinking about people and places who are different too. The University of Notre Dame came to mind. 

In many ways, Notre Dame has been slow to change. The University is ever mindful of its traditions and prides itself on keeping them and passing them on. Participation in game day rituals, dorm life activities, practices of the Catholic faith, and a strong ethos make it stand up and apart from the others. Among alumni and friends, change at Notre Dame isn't always a welcome thing, especially when it comes to football. For example, many fans hated the move to turf, the addition of the electronic scoreboard and even the addition to the stadium. Others are crying out for more change. But I have come to realize these traditions and customs are what make us different—and my time on campus for the Purdue game reminded me how important it is to be different and stay different. After all, we are ND.

The purpose of this post is to name those differences—both those that I appreciate and those I wish we would reconsider. For long time Irish football fans, our differences will ring familiar and true. I am hoping the others will get you thinking. I welcome your feedback. 

We're Different: Example 1—Sign Value
My dad and my uncle want names on the back of football player's jerseys. They understand the rationale for keeping them off: football is a team sport and the emphasis on the only name a player represents is that which they wear on the front of the jersey. I do like following players and while I know many names, the learning curve involves 100+ individuals. Therefore, I have my roster out for a good bit of the game. It's cumbersome, and yes over time I need it less and less. But, I recognize the sign value of not having names—I have written about this before. I am also sympathetic to their request. 

How's this for Sign Value?!

We're Different: Example 2—What you won't find inside ND Stadium
You won’t see any advertising inside Notre Dame Stadium. It’s striking to enter an athletic venue completely free of corporate logos, posters, or ribbon boards. Each end zone features just nine slash marks at a 42-degree angle—a nod to 1842, the year the University was founded. 

This is a striking contrast to Oracle Park in San Francisco, and many other sporting venues. Every year, the Giants' electronic scoreboard grows larger. It’s a shame that corporate logos stake a large amount of real estate on that screen, limiting views of the San Francisco Bay. In contrast, Notre Dame remains refreshingly simple and pure.

We're Different: Example 3—What you will find inside ND Stadium
The flag pole is in the south end zone of Notre Dame Stadium. I'm not sure I would have realized just how special and how different that is if my dear friend and former roommate Erin hadn't called it to my attention. 

Most flags fly at the main entrance or plaza of the stadium, above or near the press box or even in an end zone or above a screen board. But the placement of the flag pole at ND allows for a distinguished individual to present the flag and for fans to pause and take notice of this important ritual. As part of the celebration of 50 years of women's' athletics at Notre Dame, Ruth Riley Hunter presented the flag on behalf of every woman who’s worn the Irish jersey. Go Irish!

We're Different: Example 4—Victory Walk
Much to the delight of Irish fans, Coach Marcus Freeman reinstated the Notre Dame “Victory Walk” tradition: a pre-game procession from the Basilica of the Sacred Heart—where players attend Mass—into Notre Dame Stadium. The practice had been discontinued under Coach Kelly, who moved team Masses to Friday, rather than on the day of the game. 

This was one of the very first changes Coach Freeman brought to the program—and he was clear about why it mattered to him. I agree wholeheartedly. To me, this tradition speaks volumes: Notre Dame is a Catholic institution, and moving from spirituality to sport in this way underscores who we are and what we stand for.

And yet, we're no different....
Notre Dame has and DOES change. For each of the four differences I described, there are changes that make me think we are just like everyone else. Maybe you will find those changes to be a "force for good." I'm not against change, but I am pointing to the differences I question.

We're Not Different #1: Player Promotion
As mentioned, the only type of advertising on the scoreboard is for campus programs and university highlights. Fans can turn to the scoreboard for replays of the game and in review of calls from the ref. The only individuals featured on the screen by name are those receiving academic awards, other sports teams—men's track and field, women's soccer, etc. and special guests. 

For the first time however, I saw highlight reels showcasing individual athletes. After a touchdown by Jeremiyah Love, I saw what he just accomplished followed by past plays and his famous heart hand gesture from other games. As much as I love Love—and he wasn't the only athlete singled out— I was surprised by this change. I imagine the reality of N.I.L. sparked this shift but I am disappointed that an important way Notre Dame football communicates its team first mentality is a thing of the past.

We're Not Different #2: Turn Down for What
One of the greatest sounds associated with college football is the cadence, beat and rhythms of a marching band. I love hearing the Band of the Fighting Irish as they enter the stadium and take the field. Their music is far from limited to just pregame/postgame and halftime. The drums and songs that punctuate first downs, time outs, the end of the third quarter color my memories of my time as a student at ND.

Today the University allows for popular music in addition to the band. I arrived inside Notre Dame Stadium excited to teach my cousin's daughter Addison all of the moves and dance drills associated with the little ditties of the ND Band. Unfortunately, far too much of their music was drowned out by the likes of Ozzy Ozbourne's "Crazy Train" and a jock-rock favorite: "Turn Down for What." I'm not sure how many more times I can or should hear the "Price is Right" theme song.

Any school and any stadium can press play on hard rock or hip hop. Not every place offers melodies from the best band in college football. Fighting Irish Media, PLEASE reconsider.

We're Not Different #3: Speaking of music...
My friend Bill and I caught the procession of players and coaches close to the Hesburgh library. I loved seeing them in dress ware—a uniform navy blazer and dress shirt. A few wore ties; all carry their own backpacks.

I realize they are moving from a place of introspection and prayer to a public space that is loud and demands a lot from them. I get that they want to be "in the zone," but I wish they would remove their head phones/ take out their ear buds. To me, silencing the cheers and potential jeers creates a barrier. For example, when I saw Cooper Flanagan, I yelled out "Go Spartans!" I wanted to make a connection to his high school alma mater, De La Salle high school. Those AirPods prevent any sort of communique.

These athletes are modeling what we see every week in the NFL and among their peer group. Am I asking too much in requesting that they be open and stay open to family, friends and fans who call their name and cheer for Old Notre Dame?!

We're Not Different #4: Kegs in the Dorm is a No, Beer inside the Stadium is a Yes...
Maybe it's because we are Irish, but Notre Dame has always had a interesting, dynamic and complicated relationship with alcohol. We are anything but a dry campus. Kegs were forbidden but students still host parties in their dorm rooms—offering booze that has been "snuck in." The tailgating culture has certainly increased and many students at ND do what others do on Game Day: throw back a few, play drinking games, take Jell-o shots and more. others binge drink.

Critiquing culture around alcohol isn't a bad thing, and so it is with that spirit that I raise a question about the sale of it during games. Now, we match the practices of most other Power Five conference schools that have been selling alcohol for years. The powers that be made the change to  provide a more modern fan experience, generate revenue, and align with other major college and professional sports venues.

I asked students if they bought beer or wine during the game. About half said it was too pricey and others said "of course." I thought the editorial, Notre Dame’s approval rating skyrockets after allowing sale of alcohol in stadium from The Observer, the student run paper was hilarious. While ND's policy has changed, it's good to see that student responses have not. Witty. Snarky. Funny. No different.

No Family is the Same
Amidst our practices and pathways, I think it's always good to evaluate who we are and what we do. As I wrote this post, I was able to call attention to what makes Notre Dame distinct, unique and different. What is our flair? In what ways are the Irish creative? 

I think our greatest superpower can be found in the fact that we pride ourselves on being a Notre Dame Family—and no family is the same. Each one is different. We grow up. We grow old and pass our values and traditions from one generation to the next. Let's continue to do this, to add and subtract, review and respect our family name.

This was one of my favorite visits back to campus for a game because
I got to share the ND family with my own family and friends who are like family.

I carried these observations home with me—grateful, happy and with a full heart. My students asked if we stayed for the entire game. I said "how could we not? Making the pilgrimage to Notre Dame for a game runs on kairotic time. Time is not chronological." I was able to share the entire weekend with special family members—My Uncle Jay, Aunt Wendy, my cousin Jodi, her husband C.W. and their awesome four children: Regan, Harrison, Quinn and Addison. They visited me when I was a student and it was a treat to reconnect on campus once again and make new memories. I shared game day with friends who are like family—my former colleague Bill, the ACE IV cohort and the Shiogis. We celebrated 50 years of women's sports at Notre Dame. I sang the Alma Mater after a win and at the dedication of the Main Circle to the women of Notre Dame.

I'm different because of my time at Notre Dame and in the many years since I have graduated. That's a good thing.

Photo Credits
Player Walk
Ruth Riley Hunter
Jeremiyah Love

From Redskins to Rushing Irish: What Do Our Mascots Say About Us?

Moving through the San Diego airport, I did a double take. I hadn’t seen that image in years — an illustration of a Native American chief, a composite that included Blackfeet chief Two Guns White Calf on a burgundy and gold jacket. The Washington NFL team retired both the logo and the “Redskins” name in 2020, replacing them with new branding. Today, they’re known as the Washington Commanders, though many—including the President—wish they weren’t. The jacket I saw looked like a relic from the ’80s: synthetic fiber, faded colors, worn seams. Still, it sparked a question I’m still turning over in my mind: Should someone still wear this logo?

Notre Dame opened the season against the Miami Hurricanes, rekindling one of college football’s great rivalries of the late ’80s and ’90s. These matchups loom large in memory, forever tied to the moniker “Catholics vs. Convicts.” First printed on a shirt sold on the ND campus, the phrase became iconic—so much so that ESPN devoted a 30 for 30 documentary to it. The Irish won that legendary game 31–30 at home, a regular-season victory that propelled them to their most recent national championship. Before this season’s game, I saw a resurgence of the green “Catholics” vs. orange “Convicts” shirts all over social media—and even on a few friends and classmates. Once again, the question surfaced: Should someone still wear it?

I decided to ask other sports fans and friends what they thought. Their answers varied widely. Loyalty runs deep, and most people don’t like being told what to do. Several expressed frustration—and fatigue—with what they called “wokeness.” More than once, I heard comments like, “We’ve taken things way too far,” and, “Let’s not get caught up in matters like this.” Others offered more nuance: “If I grew up in Cleveland and the Indians were my team, I might have a different relationship with the Chief Wahoo logo. Sports evoke memories, and that’s what I knew, what I cheered for.” A few even wrestled openly with the dilemma: “Just because I can wear it, should I?” That’s the question I keep coming back to. Because we can—does that mean we should?

My own authentic Catholics vs. Convicts t-shirt once hung in the back corner of my classroom, handsomely framed and often sparking enthusiastic remarks from students. One day, after class, a student asked me about it. I told him the story of the rivalry, my connection to the students who sold the shirt on campus, and how, against the odds, the Irish prevailed that season. He told me he had seen the 30 for 30 documentary and felt there were clear racist undertones in the slogan—which, in hindsight, there were. “I wonder how Miami fans feel about that moniker,” he said. “I’m sure some embrace it, but overall the optic isn’t good.”

I was defensive at first, rushing to defend my team and the ethos of Notre Dame athletics in my own mind. I even questioned his motive for asking about it. But later, I let his words settle. Eventually, I took the shirt down. In someone’s den or basement, with proper historical context, it might still have a place. But in my classroom, it felt different. I’ve come to believe the slogan carries racial undertones—though I know others don’t see it that way. I could wear the shirt or hang it, but I have decided not to do either. 

It’s worth noting that changing team names and logos isn’t a new or uniquely “woke” trend. Take Stanford, for example. I had always wondered how they ended up with “Cardinal”—just a color—as their name and a tree as their mascot. It turns out the student body pushed for change back in the 1970s, retiring the “Indians” name and imagery after Native American students spoke out about its harm. I find this to be a powerful testimony; history is a great teacher.

I'm going to let ChatGPT outline the movement (teachers, this is poignant example of when and how to allow students to use A.I.)

Early Mascot History: Stanford’s teams were originally known as the “Indians,” a nickname that dates back to around 1930. The name was meant to reference the school’s early use of Native American imagery, including a caricatured mascot and symbols.

Growing Awareness: By the late 1960s and early 1970s, the Civil Rights Movement and the growing voice of Native American students began to challenge stereotypical depictions and the use of Indigenous cultures as mascots.

Student Advocacy: In 1972, Stanford’s Native American students, supported by other student groups, formally petitioned the university to drop the “Indians” name and mascot. They argued that the imagery was offensive and perpetuated harmful stereotypes.

Decision to Change: In April 1972, Stanford President Richard Lyman announced that the university would retire the “Indians” name and associated imagery, citing the harm it caused to Native students and the broader Native community.

What Happened Next: After the change, Stanford’s teams were officially referred to simply as “Stanford” for several years. In 1981, they adopted the singular nickname “Cardinal” (referring to the color, not the bird). The Block “S” with a tree — a reference to El Palo Alto, the tree featured on Stanford’s seal — eventually became the primary logo.

So while Stanford’s athletic logo and mascot change happened in the 1970s (not the 1950s), it was one of the earlier examples of a major university dropping a Native American mascot out of respect for Indigenous people.

Sports team names, mascots, and logos are woven into our everyday lives; they’re deeply embedded in our culture. For many, they’re tied to identity and belonging. Raising questions about how we illustrate, name, and understand one another is not new.

These conversations often get pulled into politics, claimed by special interest groups, and can spark heated debate. Sometimes we get lost in the details—and sometimes that’s necessary. After all, how we relate to and treat each other can’t be separated from the names we use, the images we display, and the stories we tell.

The term "Redskin" is riddled with controversy. The studies around it conflicting reports and details. I appreciate what the ACLU has written. I think the Washington football team did the right thing. For those who think otherwise, let's continue the conversation.

Two minutes before the bell rang to conclude my Sports and Spirituality class, my student told me that Notre Dame changed their logo. I immediately thought "Oh wow. Did I miss the issue in question? I have read the history and origin of the Fighting Irish time and again. Is there a problem with the leprechaun?"

Turns out it's a marketing ploy. As written on the Notre Dame Athletics website, "the athletic department has released the Football Leprechaun mark that will be followed by more sport-specific marks representing each unique sport in which the Fighting Irish compete at the varsity level."

They added, "The Notre Dame Leprechaun is a secondary spirit mark of Notre Dame athletics. Its long-standing history represents the tenacious spirit of the Fighting Irish and their determination. The Leprechaun is recognized around the world today as the mascot of Notre Dame athletics dating back to its design in the early 1960s."

 Though the change did not prompt an ethical questions, it certainly got people talking. To me, it makes no sense. We are the FIGHTING Irish and I love that our moniker prompts the question "What would you fight for?" Now, all I see is the rushing Irish (Is he a running back?!). I look forward to seeing the leprechaun rowing soon.

During the Miami game, every time I saw head coach Marcus Freeman, my eyes were drawn to that new logo. Emblazoned on his shirt, it was impossible to miss. That insight reinforced my belief: logos and names send messages—whether we intend them to or not. They can invite curiosity, spark questions, and open conversations. And maybe that’s the name of the game, set, match. 

Photo Credits
Rushing Leprechaun
HCMF
Stanford Indian
Catholics vs. Convicts

Head Coach Marcus Freeman on Leadership—One Homily Worth Seeing

At today's Good Friday service, Father Michael quoted  Pope Paul the IV who said, "I would rather see a sermon than hear one." I couldn't help but think that truth characterizes what was the highlight of my most recent visit to Notre Dame. To the surprise and delight of 350 alumni and friends in attendance at the Notre Dame Alumni Association's annual leadership conference, Coach Marcus Freeman spoke on the topic of leadership. While he offered some important insights on this topic, the real message has been learned from who and what we saw. Thank you, HCMF.

We saw was a content and confident man. He smiled, he listened and made us laugh. He said a lot with a little. He made time for Q&A and to my utter delight, I offered a question of my own. He is gifted and grateful, humble and happy. We saw a great homily.

To our surprise, Coach Freeman entered in the room nearly unannounced. There was no walk up song, victory march, spotlight, fire or flags. He smiled and gave high fives to those who lined the walk-way. My friend Kristina turned around to look at my reaction. Although I smiled, I just kept shaking my head as if to say "no." I couldn't believe it and yet, I could (Is there a name for this sentiment?!). WAY TO GO NDAA!

Coach Free sat down with Dolly Duffy—executive director of the Notre Dame Alumni Association and associate vice president for University Relations—for a 20 minute conversation. He acknowledged his audience and said leaders must be adaptable. Given the reality of injury for players, the challenges of travel, weather and life events it's easy to believe he practices what he preaches.

He stressed the importance of maintaining a micro-focus on the task at hand (think one game at a time) while planning far ahead. It's his job to do both—He is the one to take the team where it needs to go. In light of that mindset, he said "you must fix the process. You hear trust the process—sure, but being adaptable means you will need to fix it, too. That's critical."

He said "good leaders are unorthodox. You go against the grain. You make those around you better." I kept thinking of what my friend Father Paul Kollman said to me at lunch that day "there's so much wisdom to be gained from sports." I'm not convinced that Marcus Freeman is a "player's coach," but he did stress that not everyone is coached in the same way. He listens to his players, especially the captains. He noted, "Their input is invaluable." 

Coach Freeman addressed the devastation of losing to Northern Illinois University (16-14) in the home opener. This loss was significant as it marked the first time a Mid-American Conference (MAC) team had defeated an AP Top 5 team. He said, "one week prior, we went into College Station and had a great win over Texas A&M. Coming off that win, I realized, we had to learn how to handle success, mentally and physically. Game two exposed that need."

He could have left the recount at that. Instead, he said "I left the office late that night. It was dark and obviously a long day. While sitting at a stoplight, I decided to count the days. I asked myself How many days have passed between our official start date and today? I realized it was 40 days. That number has incredible significance."

Coach Freeman's reflection resonates with my experience of prayer. For me, my most authentic experience of prayer is when I can connect the Word, the lived experience of God's people to events of my own life. Those connections provide solace and comfort, clarity and understanding. In Scripture, the number 40 symbolizes testing, trial, or probation. I am led to believe Coach Freeman decided to acknowledge that time as a period of hardship and yet one that is the seedbed for spiritual growth.

Coach Freeman emphasized the three pillars of his program: talent, development of that talent and culture. He said "we can control two of those three pillars. We recruit the talent and it's our job to develop it and build a culture that supports and sustains excellence. I call it the Gold Standard (TGS). It's what I want you to feel when you walk into our locker room. We are going to challenge each other. I ask every one in the building to "choose hard" and maintain a competitive spirit. You must choose love. In other words choose to put the greater good, in this case Notre Dame football above yourself."

Knowing there would be Q&A, I decided now was the time. Why? I have served on the Notre Dame Women Connect Alumni Board for the past six years, and my tenure was up. I prepared my introduction, commentary and question and raised my hand. I almost couldn't believe my luck when Dolly nodded in my direction. (think Jake Ryan nodding at Sam in Sixteen Candles. Who me?). I stood up and spoke into the microphone totally pumped and ready to share my stuff.

I said, "Coach Freeman, thank you for encouraging young people to 'Choose hard.' I think that's so important. Second, thank you for beating USC." (when my Dad met Tony Rice, he said that and I've always loved it). The crowd clapped and cheered.

I added, "you inspire so many people. Can you tell us about an athlete or someone from this season who inspires you? I know it's not easy to choose just one, but who is someone that inspires you."

I've been in the business of teaching and coaching young people long enough to know that THEY have just as much of an impact—both positive and negative—on us as we have on them. We need to hear those stories. As my Uncle Jay has told me, "inspiration comes from players to coaches, students to teachers, children to parents, kids to adults, etc., but we seldom acknowledge that." I genuinely wanted to hear what he had to say.

NDAA asked that we refrain from posting videos of Coach Freeman, but I can tell you he mentioned both Irish quarterback Riley Leonard—especially after the NIU loss and Irish safety D.J. Brown. Next time you see me, ask me about his answers and I'll say more.

The last question from the audience was about Coach Freeman's recent conversion to Catholicism. His answer was just beautiful. He said "I'm not a demonstrative or outspoken guy when it comes to my faith." His admission did not surprise me. In fact it reminded me of St Francis of Assisi who said "preach the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words."

What Coach Freeman did say however was "before you know, you have to trust. Trust beyond knowing. Building that trust, living in that trust—it's all a different way of saying have faith." At this point, I wasn't sure if he was talking about sport or about spirituality. Probably both. 

One of the first quotes I have my students in Sports and Spirituality write down is also from Pope Paul VI. He said, "Modern man listens more willingly to witnesses than to teachers, and if he does listen to teachers, it is because they are witnesses." Attending the Spring Alumni Association meeting has made me—a teacher into a witness as well. Our time with Coach Freeman was a gift. His insight on leadership, relationships, striving for excellence and faith was powerful and poignant. I heard a great homily, but what I saw will stay with me for years to come.

Photo Credits
TGS
Dick Corbett
Mass at ND

Sign Value: As seen from Notre Dame and Penn State Football

When students walk into my classroom in a shirt and tie, or wearing their varsity jacket, I take notice. That simple gesture of coming to school in formal attire sends a message of its own: it's game day. I like that they make the effort to dress up and make it known that today isn't just another day. That tradition invites questions and sparks conversation. Who are you playing today? Where is the game? How are you feeling— nervous? Excited? How are the Lancers this year? Beat the Bells! 

Sign value goes a long way.

Earlier this week, I paused when I realized that one of my students—a varsity athlete— came to class sans tie. Fifteen minutes prior, I saw one of his teammates in game day gear. Somewhat surprised and slightly confused, I asked him, "Why aren't you wearing a tie?" He said "my coach doesn't care if we wear one or not." I don't know his coach well enough to find out if this is true. I replied "But you're a senior, and, you're a starter. Don't you care?" 

Sign value speaks for itself.

James Martin, SJ writes about sign value. "Sign value" refers to the meaning or significance a particular object, action, or event holds as a visible representation of a deeper spiritual truth or message. Sign value acts as a marker or indicator pointing towards more...something beyond. In a religious context, it's important for sign value enables people to connect with their faith through concrete symbols, tangible objects and more.

Fans loved who Charles Du included his name...

Catholic spirituality finds sign value in and outside of church—in the day to day as well as time and space which is sacred and holy. Sign value is important because we are always seeking to convene and connect, understand and make known who we are and what we value. Sign value allows us to anchor those truths. For an athlete to wear a tie or a varsity jacket might seem nominal, but it's a place to start—and that is not to be underestimated. 

Sign value can shape a community and define it. And good leaders recognize its import.

Every coach (and leader) needs examples to call out and credit. They need tried and tested ways that work. It helps to call on cases that demonstrate what they value and who they want to be. For instance, the Notre Dame football team does not put surnames of on the back of a player's jersey. The rationale for this tradition is that the team is important; the name of that team is what matters, and that can be found on the  front of the jersey only. 

Notice what the post-season brought...for one team.

To be honest, I don't like this practice. I don't want to look to a roster after every play. Sure, during the course of the season we learn the names and numbers of certain players— but there are so many athletes go unrecognized because of tradition. Sign value isn't always convenient or comfortable, but it speaks volumes. A coach can say that the team is what matters most, but what can they point to sends this message? What can they name that reveals this truth? Notre Dame football can include this simple gesture as one example. 

Notre Dame isn't the only program with this practice. The Nittany Lions of Penn State do the same. And during the Orange Bowl, I couldn't help notice, they kept this tradition whereas the Irish did not. (In both the Shamrock Series as well as post-season play, Notre Dame adds names to the jerseys. I have to wonder if the players love it. I know I do). I want to give credit where credit is due. Whether it's season or postseason—Penn State can say they hold sign value in the same way. To Coach Franklin, I would say: you—the team—know who you are and what you're about. I applaud you for that. This is not a criticism of Notre Dame; I appreciate both ways of holding sign value.

to their credit...

For Notre Dame, I can point to other examples that signify the importance of team over individual performance. In April 2017, the University installed its first major video display system in Notre Dame Stadium. What fans, players and coaches were privy to see changed dramatically. And yet, no one will see individual profiles our promos. The focus remains on the team. That's sign value of the digital kind. 

Whether is wearing a tie on game day or not wearing your name on your jersey, what we wear, carry, promote and portray has significance. It's not just something on the surface. It offers sign value, and sign value invites us to consider something more. This is the space the spiritual life is always inviting us into...

Photo Credits
Mix
Unrivaled
Du
No Names

The Philosphy of Being a (Notre Dame) Fan

The College Football playoffs have brought much more than a new format to the post season. This pathway to the National Championship has yielded incredible television ratings, surprising match-ups, exciting games and for me, questions about the philosophy of being a fan.

Given the time, mental energy, money and attention students, alumni and friends give to a team, it might be worth asking How does being an avid fan fit into living a good life? Fortunately, the University has given us a resource to help us answer this question.

Philosophy professor Meghan Sullivan shares that there are many ways that being a fan of a sports team … say a football team … is a good thing because it promotes the virtues that contribute to leading a meaningful life. Watch and see for yourself. 

What this short lesson doesn't touch on however is the how and why people root for a certain team. This fascinates me. For example, a woman at my gym said "I know you are cheering for ND but I want Penn State to win. My son-in-law's family went to school there. He didn't. Regardless, now we are pulling for them." I just listened. A colleague informed me he could not cheer for the Irish because his nephew plays for Ohio State. I said "oh your brother Brian has a son on the team? Wow!" "No," he said. "It's Brian's wife's brother's son." Although I wanted to say "that seems like a loose definition of nephew," I just listened. The truth is, fandom is totally up for grabs. It's up to an individual to decide who they like and who they don't, who they will follow and accordingly, who becomes a rival. I have followed what I believe to be a fairly conventional path to fandom. Others? not so much.

I am a fan of my local, Bay Area sports teams: Niners, Giants and Warriors. With the rise of professional women's sports, I anticipate adding the Valkyries to my dossier. I have grown up a fan of these squads and remain loyal to them as well as my high school and collegiate alma maters. 

I don't wear gear representing other teams or players. When I visited the Duke bookstore last January, I was reminded that I have no interest in wearing a shirt from a school I did not attend. I won't go so far as to say I will never do that, but in general I abide by this code of conduct. 

NLDS Game in 2014

I have cheered for other teams when my own teams are eliminated from post season play and as written about before, I found myself cheering for my rival—the Los Angeles Dodgers to beat the New York Yankees last fall in order to win a bet. #NotProud. The increased (and mostly positive attention) around Notre Dame has caused me to consider the path to fandom further. I have a personal ethic about sports fandom and wonder about it for other people. While Sullivan points out some moral quandaries that arise with regards to sports fandom, other questions remain. 

For example, I grew up in a family that loves Notre Dame football. My paternal grandfather was born and raised in South Dakota. A devout Catholic, he played the game at So Dakota State University and coached the sport for years. Choosing to follow Notre Dame—a Catholic university in the midwest was an easy choice. I'm grateful it was one that was passed down to me. Go Irish. 

My parents never pressured me to go to Notre Dame. When I was a student,, they were proud of me but it did not define them. They tell me they looked for me on television for four years, to no avail. Truth is, they were watching games long before my time in South Bend and long after—but I love this story nonetheless. 

My Dad and I outside of Farley Hall, senior year.

They were able to make it back to campus for one game a season. Yes, even in my day some parents and families made it back for every home game. Many live within driving distance and have their own friends and family to see on game day. I have however wanted to ask some parents: Do you or does your child go to Notre Dame? Fandom doesn't always reveal the best in me.

Fans can be judgy and territorial. I have thought to myself at other sporting events or experiences: this doesn't compare to "x." or If they only knew "y." While that may be true, Why not let fans have their own experience...and create their own memories? Our loyalties run strong and deep. They often reveal who we are and what we value. For example, I've never understood why a person—not from Oakland or Los Angeles—would choose to follow the Raiders. I mean, I know why...but I don't understand it. 

Nor do understand the fan who cheers for their grad school louder and prouder than their undergraduate institution. This seems to happen quite regularly with Notre Dame. It's strange to me  because undergraduate life is such a defining part of the Notre Dame experience. Its four years and students live in the dorms on campus. Sure I'm happy they like the Irish, but it feels different. For example, I have a friend who was enrolled in the one year program for his MBA. The man wears more ND/talks more about ND than he does about the University of Oregon and his four years in Eugene. If we had played the Ducks, that would have been really interesting. 

Another friend added that he cheers for Michigan because he got into grad school there. While that must have been an honor to be accepted to the program, I found that to be a loose tie to fandom. I said "well I was wait-listed at Duke. Do I cheer for them half the time?" His collegiate alma mater dropped its football program so he became a man without a college football team. He is not alone. He chose Stanford—a local school he did not attend, and he became a season ticket holder. I respect that. In short, I get it when your undergraduate school no longer has a football team or never did. Otherwise, this is an elusive ethic to me.

I will say, it's been a wonderful time to be a Notre Dame fan. SO many people are wishing us well and have delighted in the story of this season. Our head coach, Marcus Freeman is universally admired and respected. Truly, he is beloved. At times, it's felt disarming to have such great support. Yes, I still hear the unsolicited remarks like the one I heard on Friday. "Your team isn't very good. I don't think they have a chance against OSU. To me the real championship game was the semi-final." I didn't really know what to say. Even if I felt that way, I'm not sure I would say words like those to a fan about their own team. But, I sure as heck have questioned their credibility, let alone their sanity and potentially their humanity. Such is the nature of sports fandom. Furthermore, it's neve been easier to get dressed in the morning. I have a license to wear my ND gear and as the Alumni Association has called fans to do: #paintthetown green. Done and done.

I followed Dr. Sullivan's and Augustine's advice and put my loves in right order. I won't be in attendance at in Atlanta. I just wasn't able to find a ticket for under $1125 each for me and my crew. Those would have cost $1750 each with fees—and that was early in the week! Instead, I'll join others at the San Francisco Alumni Club's official game watch at Chief Sullivans—Irish fans of all types. We will wake up the echoes and cheer cheer for old Notre Dame, one and all. AND regardless of the outcome, we have already won.

We have won so much to have been a part of this journey. Thank you, Notre Dame. Thank you to my Grandfather for forging the fan connection. Thank you to the athletes, coaches and all who make football work. Go Irish.

Photo Credits
Green Fans
Coach Free and Athletes