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Wednesday, January 20, 2021

20 for 2020: Number 17—Two Lessons from Philip Rivers

Every summer tor the past ten years of my teaching life, I have had the same goal: to get to the bottom of a basket that lives next to my desk. It is full of magazines, newspaper clippings, exemplary student work. My plan was to file or pitch, re-read or respond to special stories, profiles and spiritual practices. The basket hasn't gotten smaller, and the pile has only grown larger each and every summer. The good news, however, is that shelter-in-place afforded me with the time and opportunity to forge ahead and through it. I'm glad I did as the announcement of Philip Rivers' retirement after 17 seasons in the NFL isn't Number 17 on my 20 for 2020....but information about him from that basket is!

On Inauguration Day 2020, the public learned that the 39-year old quarterback is now pursuing another opportunity in the game of football. This fall, Rivers, will coach football at Saint Michael's High School in Fairhope, AL. I imagine they are accepting transfer applications.

Rivers is popular and he is polarizing; I'll let you make the call. Professionally, it's hard not to respect all that he has done. T
hough he never got to the Super Bowl, Rivers stands fifth all time in passing yards and touchdown passes. He started the final 240 games of his career without interruption. This stalwart stat is second to Brett Favre's streak of 297 games. Personally, he has been known as a great teammate, but a challenging one. He is outspoken in many things—what he expects on the field, and  in particular about his Catholic faith. For that reason, I remembered and recorded these two insights from a Catholic publication—which I tossed after transcription. I found both to be very interesting! Enjoy.
What kind of temptations and challenges have you had to face as a football player?
The biggest key to avoid those temptations is to not put yourself in those situations. And it’s not just as an NFL player, it’s in any workplace, in any city, anything you’re doing, anywhere after dark, after midnight. I think it’s Corinthians 11 that says “Bad company corrupts good morals.” If you’re not in the wrong b
ut you continue to put yourself in tempting situations eventually may give in. So that’s always been something I’ve lived by all the way through – don’t put yourself in those situations. Even though you may be strong enough to go somewhere and not fall into sin, avoiding it from the start will certainly help.

You’re known for your very passionate style of play. How do you talk trash as a Christian? 
I am known as a trash talker, but I’m not saying any trash out there. It’s all in fun; just like you would give a little jab to your brother in the backyard, it’s the same way out there. You know, as I grew up with my dad being my coach, that’s the way he coached—with a great deal of passion and energy. So that’s just the way I’ve done everything. I play the game like I did when I was a kid in Alabama, even though there are a lot more cameras and people paying attention. And the trash talk is nothing I couldn’t go home and tell my wife or my mom. That was the thing that really got me through some of the bumpy roads. That I knew I didn’t have to defend anything that was wrong But I did understand the way anything can be spun by the media, so that was a learning lesson for me.
In his new position as head coach of the St. Michael's football program, Rivers will be able to help young people not only talk trash but play the game with passion and energy. And, when he leads his team in prayer, especially the Our Father, he can not only pray "Lead us not into temptation" but teach a little more. Congratulations Phil and good luck Coach!

Monday, May 27, 2019

ESPN's 30 for 30: Seau—Why Watch?

Imagine 
  • that you are born with a personality so magnanimous, that you refer those you meet as "buddy." 
  • being incredibly photogenic—in part because of your natural beauty, but more-so because your warm and vibrant spirit is so bright.  
  • growing up in a family where every one of your five siblings had to work after school and during the summer....but you didn't because your "job" was to play sports.
  • being incredibly gifted at three sports—football, basketball, and track and field—but choosing the one you love the least because you know it will serve as a pathway toward financial success, not only for yourself, but for those you love. 
  • the honor you bring your tight knit Samoan family by being able to provide enough so that your parents can leave their two bedroom house, in troubled neighborhood. 
  • the talent it takes to be named a first ballot NFL Hall of Fame player.
  • being drafted in the first round only to return to your hometown to play for your favorite childhood team (in one of the most beautiful cities in the U.S.)
  • playing for 20 years as a linebacker—an incredibly demanding defensive position—and being named a 10-time All-Pro, 12-time Pro Bowl selection, and to the NFL 1990s All-Decade Team
Now imagine 
  • at the age of 40, telling another athlete you have had a headache since the age of 15
  • acquiring a condition that decreases your ability to handle adversity in your life,
  • suffering in silence and keeping your "game face on" only to have it get the best of you. 
  • slowly disappearing from those who love you—losing your zest for life, questioning your identity and knowing how to get help, but not accepting it.
  • writing in your journal "The world has nothing for me" even though you have four children who love and adore you as their parent.
  • understanding the struggles with depression that your teammates face.
  • telling those same teammates there's nothing is insurmountable and "as long as me you'll never be broke...you'll always be loved."
  • not being able to take your own advice.
What I have asked you to imagine—both the good and the bad— should not be hard to do. Why? It is the story of Junior Seau. I was eager to watch the "30 for 30" bearing his name because I had questions and I wanted answers. What did I find? Tragedy and no comedy. A lot of complexity and an understanding that CTE was not the only reason Junior Seau died (though a leading factor). I asked my friend Sean to watch it with me, so I could make sense of his story. I was eager to exchange insights on the themes that emerged, the lessons learned, and how we can and should honor Junior Seau's legacy in an appropriate way.

Seau begins with an aerial view of Oceanside, CA—a town on the north side of San Diego County. The director, Kirby Bradley returns to the image of the gentle waves returning to the sandy shores time and again. The contrast of such beauty, allows the viewer to take in and follow Seau's ultimate demise: into alcohol abuse, infidelity, gambling, and depression. Even his own children could not offer him peace: he hit his own son and turned on the lead Chef at his restaurant. 
Junior Seau died by suicide on May 2, 2012. It was not his first attempt.  
Friends and family knew that surfing in this ocean afforded Seau with a sense of peace and quiet, a place for the spiritual journey each one of takes. His journey ended too quickly. In spite of the struggle, those same fans, friends and family share stories of their love for him, their hopes for his future and how the loss still burns. I asked my good friend Haley, a San Diego native, if she had seen "Seau" yet. She responded in a way that indicated this wound still hurts. I took notice. So, why watch? Why tell the tale? 

ESPN writes "By far Junior Seau was the most famous player to have something like this happen to. It probably would have been voted NFL player least likely to commit suicide during his career." Because of his death we can safely come to one conclusion. No imagination is necessary.


Former NFL player Gary Plummer states "I absolutely would have never sought help were it not been what happened to Junior." It's very possible that Junior's death was a tipping point—THE tipping point: for players, for the NFL and for those of us who love the game. The questions are tough, the answers are many. Is this a resurrection story? No it is not. Is there a lesson that at least one person has learned? Absolutely. And hopefully many more.

Rest in peace, #55.


Photo Credits
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Kneeling
30 for 30
Surfing